How To Get Among With Anyone by John Eliot [Hardcover]

Drawing on over three decades of experience with Fortune 500 companies, sports teams, schools, government agencies, and families, Eliot and Guinn identify five core ways people respond to conflict: avoid, compete, analyze, collaborate, or accommodate.

These responses are rooted in instinctive, subcortical patterns, meaning they can be anticipated. Knowing someone’s default conflict style empowers you to develop a tailored approach to de-escalation and understanding.

The authors offer a hands-on, step-by-step guide (or “playbook”) to identify personal and others’ conflict styles and then apply appropriate techniques to defuse tension before it escalates.

Packed with engaging, relatable scenarios from work and daily life, the book provides actionable tools designed to help readers transform difficult conversations into opportunities for stronger, more collaborative relationships.